Have you noticed lately that some of the most non-spiritual people in your life – or on your “friends list” – are suddenly posting esoteric memes or using phrases like, “soul mate” or “twin-flame soul mate,” even? I mean, I’m talking about people who don’t even believe in reincarnation. When I started to witness this, I thought, “Oh, boy, here we go. #Twin-flame will soon be trending on Twitter. Time to consult with my Akashic Records and create a list of Frequently Asked Questions (FAQ).”
Because, let’s face it, we THINK we know what twin flames are and all that. But, when it’s all said and done, we really don’t. Some are still stuck spinning their wheels thinking their twin-flame soul mate is the ONLY one for them and that, even though they are estranged now, that is the person they will be with one day. And, until that day, they will drown in a sea of sorrow. This is the kind of mentality we need to nip in the bud, for it serves NO ONE. Trust me. I waited five years for my twin-flame to come back around, and even though we did reunite “one more time,” it did not last and was nothing but a huge disappointment. What I learned from it: I deserve MUCH better. And so do you. And this is why I challenged my Akashic team to set the record straight and get the truth about all these human-ego ideas we read about twin-flame soul mates when everything comes crashing down – even after we loved without conditions and took every exhausting “test” and “challenge” our twin flames threw at us, accepted every “mirrored reflection” they showed us and integrated it into our own unconditional self love and it still wasn’t good enough.
Most twin-flame gurus will tell you that you’re estranged from your twin flame because you “still have work to do,” or that you “need to work on yourself more; love yourself more.” Even after you’ve done all the therapy and loved yourself raw and you’re still finding yourself alone, you’re still thinking, because THE GURUS said so, that you can’t make it to 5D without a harmonious reunion with your twin-flame soul mate. You believe without this unconditional love for yourself and each other, you simply cannot ascend. Some may even try to tell you that the one you believe to be your twin-flame was actually a “false twin” or a “catalyst,” leaving you even more confused than ever before. That’s the last thing you need when you feel like you can’t breathe… can’t function… can’t even LIVE anymore.
So I decided it’s time for us to really dig for the truth about this twin-flame business. (See what I did there?) Using some of the “information” found around the internet that never resonated with me about twin-flame soul mates as well as some questions from my clients, I created the following list and asked for my Akashic team to please reveal the truth for all of us.
I asked my Akashic Records:
What are twin-flame soul mates?
Twin-flame soul mates are two souls that have split from one light being, much like identical twin humans have split into two beings from one egg.
Does every light being split into twin-flame soul mates?
No, not every light being does this.
Why do some beings split into twin-flame soul mates?
This is often done by beings who incarnate into a physical embodiment on a physical planet, such as Earth. The main reason is to have two aspects of the one soul – either both incarnated or only one incarnated while the other stays in spirit – to assist in the evolution of the soul.
Let’s focus on those who incarnate together for a moment. What is their purpose together? Why do they incarnate together?
Ultimately, twin-flame soul mates incarnate together to push each other onto the path of unconditional self love and to harmoniously reunite in unconditional love for each other. As far as mission or purpose to serve together once harmoniously reunited, it all depends on the contracts they make together before incarnation. They may also be in contract with other soul mates to help teach lessons to them. For example: the twin-flame soul mates incarnate on Earth as an interracial couple to help teach their respective families tolerance and love for other races. It can be as simple and complicated as that. At the same time, they may be in contract with one another to teach each other the same lesson and so many more that come along with cultural differences and learned prejudices. In short, the missions are usually to help teach unconditional love and bring peace to Earth.
Do twin-flame soul mates always incarnate with the intention of being romantic partners or sexual partners, and if so, why?
Mostly, yes. But some may choose to change it up and create some very challenging situations by being born to the same bloodline. Twin-flame soul mates mostly incarnate with the intention of being romantic sexual partners because there is a bond and a trust there like no other. The sharing of Kundalini energy is also very powerful, especially between twin-flame soul mates because of the sacred, spiritual bond that exists between them.
But wouldn’t this be much like having sex with yourself, in a way? Or your twin sibling?
With yourself, yes. Twin sibling, no.
Why would we want to have sex with ourselves, though? That seems a bit narcissistic.
Who do you trust most when it comes to such intimacy?
Why, then, if there is this sacred trust, is it so hard for twin-flame soul mates to stay together? Why is there always a runner and a chaser?
There’s not always a runner and a chaser. It seems that way, but that is not always the case. What creates the difficulty is the human ego entertaining the lower, fear-based energies. Each life experience is different. The difficulties and hardships faced in every life are what form and shape the ego-learned fears. It is possible to have two runners, just as it is possible to have two highly spiritual beings who are committed and willing to stay together through thick and thin. To have a constant game of chase in every life would be madness, and that is not every twin-flame story. We know that this is a common philosophy regarding twin-flame soul mates, and we would like to state that this is not the absolute truth; this is an ego-based philosophy based on a sampling or case-study of human experiences in your current now. It is not completely accurate.
Since we are on the subject of twin-flame myths, there is one floating out there that twin flames always incarnate as the same gender. What is the truth regarding this belief?
Not true. Although a specific gender may be preferred, all souls have incarnated as both genders numerous times.
So that brings us to a few more twin-flame myths. Some believe that the one soul splits into a masculine energy and a feminine energy. What is the truth regarding this belief, and, do the twin souls share one higher self, or do they each have their own?
When we talk of souls, what we are talking about is conscious energy known as light beings. They are genderless when not incarnated in physical bodies, and they have an equal balance of masculine and feminine energy. That is not to say that they don’t favor or project more of one energy than the other, however, which is the same for human beings. Each twin soul has its own higher self identity.
What about twin-flame soul mates who incarnate as the same gender together? Is their intention also to be romantic or sexual partners?
Yes, most of the time. These are usually more experienced and evolved souls who have learned that love transcends gender, and it is their mission to teach the younger souls incarnated on Earth this lesson – that love is love – regardless of gender, race, religion or culture. These souls are the strongest and bravest, and they usually incarnate with their twin-flame soul mate knowing they will need to rely on each other in such courageous efforts.
What about those twin-flame soul mates who cannot succeed in their union with each other? What happens to their “mission” they agreed to serve together?
They cannot complete their mission if they cannot overcome their issues to unite and serve together. Contracts can be rewritten, however, by the higher selves.
There is another myth out there that twin-flame soul mates must reunite in order for the souls to ascend into the 5D vibration. What is the truth regarding this belief?
It is not true. First of all, most souls are already of 5D vibration. Twin-flame soul mates incarnate together to assist one another in their individual soul evolution as human beings. The secret to achieving the 5D Christ Consciousness vibration while incarnated as a human being is self mastery and self love. Once the ego is tamed and the need to compare, judge and criticize (self or others) no longer exists, then it is time to move into unconditional love and complete and total acceptance of the self. Self love must be achieved by both individuals before unconditional love for each other can thrive. Unconditional love does not necessarily mean that the two marry or live together or even remain a couple; it means that they are able to love and accept one another as they are, and they are able to let go of old ego attachments to allow one another to be free and happy. For most twins, this does mean that they stay together as a couple. For others, it means that they lovingly let each other go and truly wish them well for the remainder of their journey without feeling longing or need for one another.
In the Twin Flame “guru” world here on Earth, some terms are being thrown around that only add confusion. The first is: catalyst. The second is: false twin flame. Sometimes the terms are being presented as interchangeable; other times they are presented as two different things. What can you tell us about catalysts and false twin flames?
There is no such thing as a “false” twin flame. There are some soul mates who will serve as “near” twin flames, to prepare individuals for their real twin-flame. The near twin will challenge those hang ups that may arise with your twin flame and help you hurdle some of the smaller issues to clear the way. The difference here is that you will feel this near twin is your soul mate until you discover your twin-flame soul mate and discover how much deeper you can go into love. A catalyst could be anyone, really, but usually is a member of your soul group who comes along to shake up your soul mate relationship so that you can move onto your twin-flame, but this really only occurs in extreme cases. Catalysts are not always necessary. Most go directly from the near-twin soul mate experience to the twin-flame soul mate. Some may confuse the actual twin-flame as a catalyst if the first reunion attempt is fast and furious and a failure (which is common if the near twin did not fully accomplish its mission). Catalysts are a one-time thing. There is always a sense of rockiness with a catalyst, so when the relationship is over, it’s over. There’s no going back, and both parties strongly feel this way. With a twin-flame separation, a constant longing is always felt by both parties and it cannot be shaken, despite the hurt they may have caused one another in their first reunion attempt.
There is still another myth out there that we have more than one twin-flame soul mate. What can you tell us about this belief?
It is true that higher selves create many aspects of themselves in physical bodies, so, in theory, there are individuals walking Earth (and other planets) who share the same higher self. Although it is rare, there are special cases in which an incarnate being wishes to discontinue its life, but the higher self wants to continue, so contracts are rearranged and that individual encounters another aspect of its twin-flame counterpart in the same life. We want to reiterate that this is extremely rare, but it is possible. For the most part, higher selves have already decided in advance which aspects will be paired together.
Why do so many people have problems with their twin-flame soul mates hurting them?
Sometimes it is contracted; most of the time, however, it is not intentional, but, rather a result of a lack of self love which can be manifested in many different ways, including addictions, (substance or alcohol, prescription drugs, tobacco, sex, pornography, pedophilia, food… the list goes on and on) low self-esteem, self-mutilation, self-deprecation/sabotage, mental illness, physical dis-ease and illness, anxiety, depression and more.
Some suggest that there are negative beings on Earth who want to prevent twin-flame soul mates from reuniting. What is the truth in this regard?
It is true. They are the ones who create obstacles we just mentioned to keep the human ego in lower vibration.
What happens when a twin-flame couple fails and separates and one is able to raise vibration into self love while the other is unable to rise and stays in lower vibration? Does this mean that the one who achieves unconditional self-love never gets the opportunity to reunite with his/her twin-flame for that incarnation?
In this case it is possible for those other aspects of the higher selves of the twin-flames to reshuffle and begin attracting to those who are of similar vibration. So those aspects who achieve unconditional self love begin pairing up, while those who choose to stay in lower vibration either find another aspect who matches their vibration, or they remain alone or settle for someone else who is not a twin-flame who is of equal vibration.
What if there is no match for the higher vibrating aspect to reunite with? What happens to that aspect?
This is where walk-in situations will occur. These contracts are usually in place before incarnation with soul group mates who are willing to “trade higher selves” if their own twin-flame union fails or if they have incarnated without their twin-flame (which is usually the case). The other option is for a twin-soul attract once unconditional self-love is achieved because this 5D vibration is the same as harmoniously reuniting with a twin-flame soul mate. Or the higher vibrating aspect will most likely be perfectly happy flying solo since there is really no need for a partner once unconditional self love is achieved.
What is a twin soul? How is a twin-soul different than a twin-flame?
This is the whole-soul twin of your higher self. One who is of higher vibration who has also achieved unconditional self love. You will find you have more in common with your twin soul than you do with your twin-flame and that your differences don’t matter at all; unconditional love is free-flowing and drama is at an all-time low.
So what is better, a harmoniously reunited pair of twin-flame souls or a reunited pair of twin souls?
If the twin-flame souls have each achieved unconditional self-love (which is the only way for them to be harmoniously reunited) then there really is no difference. It is about vibration. Soul mates will only attract to one another when they share a similar vibration; they repel when they are discordant in vibration. If one half of a twin-flame pair achieves the 5D vibration alone, that half automatically becomes a whole – with or without a partner who is an aspect of the other half. All are one, you see. So whether the 5D vibration is achieved with or without the other half, it is still a successful union into a whole for the half who achieved unconditional self love. It’s the vibration that counts. Not the union.
What happens to the lower vibrating twin, then, if the higher vibrating twin moves into union with a higher vibrating aspect or twin-soul?
The lower vibrating twin may move into union with another aspect who is a match in vibration or the higher-self may opt out and a walk-in situation may occur for that individual.
So what the heck is the twin-flame union even FOR then?
Twin flames serve as mirrors to one another, to show where there is an imbalance (between masculine and feminine energy) or to reflect those issues of self-esteem that need work for unconditional self-love to be achieved. The union is also usually a lesson in what unconditional love really is – as opposed to conditional or emotional attachments. Twin flame unions – whether successful or not – help awaken and guide each half toward the path to unconditional self love. Unconditional self love is what is necessary in order for the collective to rise and ultimately bring and maintain peace on Earth. When humans achieve unconditional self love, they no longer feel a need to judge, criticize, compare or compete. Instead they prefer to express compassion and compliment and help one another. And this is what Earth needs in order to heal and thrive.
So there you have it, friends. Straight from the Akashic Records. For those of you ambitious enough to change your ways and raise your vibration, there’s not “just one” possibility in the twin-flame arena. There are higher vibrating options if you feel you need a partner to help “get you there.” For those of you flying solo, isn’t it nice to know that you can achieve the 5D vibration on your own by mastering human ego and achieving unconditional self love? And isn’t it nice to know there are those accomplished whole-soul, twin-soul counterparts awaiting you when you reach the summit if you go it alone? So why waste another day pining for someone stuck in low gear? Start loving yourself and raise your vibration so you can attract a healthier, happier life partner (who just happens to have the same higher self as that original twin-flame). Or why not just fly solo? You already have everything you need inside you, and once you achieve unconditional self love, you complete yourself and the 5D vibration. Who better to love you without conditions than YOU? Trust. Fly!
15 thoughts on “Now TRENDing: #Twin-Flame #SoulMates# ~ Debunking the Myths (Part One)”
I have so many questions.
I still don’t fully understand the difference between Twin Flames, Twin Souls, and Twin Rays.
I met my Twin Flame.
But, I used to think that the above names were just different parts of the same journey.
What I mean is that first you meet as Twin Flame, then self-love, then you reunite as Twin Souls, happy, bliss, dream. Then, finally, once you let of of all attachment, you are in the 5D, Twin Rays, but it all happens with your Twin Flame. It’s just different levels and names for the same journey. Like your Twin Flame becomes your Twin Soul and then your Twin Ray based on the level they are on. Based on the level you are both on.
Your writings have blown my mind because I know there is so much Truth to it. I feel it.
God sent your work to me because I was asking a lot of questions and wanted answers.
But, your writings state something different. That they are not the same. Or so I understood.
So, my Twin Soul will look different and be different than my Twin Flame?
Or will my Twin Soul be my Twin Flame once they have healed and grown into self-love?
Can your Twin Soul also be your Twin Flame?
And then the Twin Ray, can they be your Twin Flame?
I had a similar experience with my Twin Flame that you described as having with your Twin Ray (in another post), which makes sense. I had the astral body visitations with my Twin Flame.
But, something always feel off.
Like I know Nick is me and I am him. And I see the parallels in our lives, in our features.
We say things at the same time, he is me.
But, it always felt off.
I know we are One Soul. I felt it the moment I looked into his eyes. We even always dressed the same.
And from what I’ve read and learned, it feels off because I am looking for love outside of myself still, according to others. It feels off because we have not balanced our energies and given into complete self-love. This feels true, but also like there’s so much missing from it. Reductive almost.
But, after reading your work, maybe it feels off because he is ONLY my Twin Flame.
I met someone else this year, Anthony, and the telepathy with him is incredible.
I tried to ignore it because I’m very much in love with my Twin Flame and for some reason, I felt guilty having feelings for this other person.
But, it feels so natural and effortless almost.
I’m wondering if he is my Twin Soul.
How can I tell? What are the signs? Could you go into absolute detail?
The way I describe him reminds me of how you described the Twin Ray meeting/experience.
And I wrote a poem describing the Twin Ray energy when I was younger.
This is a line from that poem: “The next official relationship I allow myself to be in has to be love based. The kind where there is no need for words. In which, silence is not uncomfortable, but venerated. The kind with understanding so profound that it’s almost telepathic. I want to meet him. The one who can make paragraphs from minuscule eye gestures or the parting of my lips.”
I was 19 when I wrote that. That’s what I always wanted. It’s like my heart (Soul) has always known about Twin Rays.
And I want my Twin Flame to be very much my partner. But, I couldn’t shake this feeling that my Twin Flame and I would not be compatible. Like yes, I’d be dating myself, but there was always something off. Like he was me, but I didn’t feel quite understood, quite loved, quite supported.
And people said that it’s me, he’s reflecting me back to me and I get that, but after reading your work, I feel there is so much more.
Could my Twin Ray still be out there?
Is the guy I met this year, Anthony, my Twin Ray?
I don’t quite believe i’m in the 5D.
I feel as if I’m in between the 4D/5D, like almost, but not quite.
I do realize, I have left society.
I keep to myself mostly.
I can’t really be a part of society.
I follow my own heart always.
I no longer judge people or catch myself if I do.
I accepted myself.
I am gentle with myself.
I see no real need for material things. I got rid of almost all of my stuff.
I’m perfectly content working and going home and tending to my plants.
This all sounds like what being in the 5D is described as.
Just surrendering to God and pure appreciation for every person and thing.
I feel this way.
Could I really have met my Twin Ray?
The last thing I said before I met my Twin Flame was “I’m okay alone”.
And I was.
I started traveling alone and being on my own did not matter anymore.
I didn’t feel like this desperation I used to feel.
And then I met my Twin Flame.
But, that also sounds like I was ready to meet my Twin Ray.
I know my Twin Flame is what he is, but i’m wondering if he’s my Twin Ray or will eventually become it as we both grow?
Or was it the other person I met, Anthony?
Something just doesn’t feel right with my Twin Flame.
Like the connection was just meant to prepare me for more.
Even when I denied it and convinced myself that I loved him and only wanted to be with him.
I had this feeling I couldn’t shake.
Like this is only the beginning, it isn’t it.
But, because meeting my Twin Flame was so intense, like all my prayers were answered, like I came Home, like I was floating, like I understood what it meant to Love another for the first time, it’s hard to let go of that feeling. And the first eye contact. I will carry it with me for all of eternity.
With Anthony, the eye contact recognition did not happen.
Does that happen with Twin Souls or Twin Rays?
I even denied my feelings for the other guy.
But, after reading what you wrote. Anthony, not my Twin Flame, was the first person to come to mind.
I even wanted tea at work, I had a bad day and he brought over tea for me.
For no reason.
He does things like this all the time.
I think “Anthony come to me” and he will show up next to me.
And I feel like I know him and can read him.
With my Twin Flame, it was more like reading myself.
With Anthony it’s more like fully knowing another. If that makes sense?
It scares the shit out of me, honestly. I was so convinced I knew and figured out somethings.
That my Twin Flame was my ultimate partner and who I am meant to be with, but what if that’s not the case and that’s why it always felt off? Like this isn’t right and it would not be right to end up with him?
It’s like I finally got everything I ever asked for, but I wasn’t satisfied.
Like where happiness should be, there was longing for something else.
And people have said that with Twin Flames this can happen, but that once you balance yourselves out and no longer look for happiness outside of yourself, it will not feel like this.
And I believe that, but I can’t shake this feeling.
I will always love and be connected to my Twin Flame, but what if he’s not meant to become my Twin Ray?
I know I have to trust myself and my intuition.
I’m just scared.
Ascension is so intense.
It scares me because I thought I had found the One in my Twin Flame.
And I said “if I don’t end up with him, I don’t want anyone else”.
I’m prepared to live my life alone.
But, then this other guy. Could he really be my Twin Soul or Ray or just someone I really connect with?
I have experienced telepathy with other people, many people, but not on this level.
I had telepathy with my Twin Flame too, but something was always off.
I knew what we were, I figured it out.
But, I felt like he didn’t really truly understand me or that I could talk to him so freely.
I did feel like we could have a lot of fun together and be like best friends and kids together.
But, this other guy, it feels like he just gets it. When I speak to him, I don’t feel any separation that I felt with my Twin.
But, Like I said, some will say that I’m rejecting my Twin Flame and trying to find that love elsewhere. These are the “Twin Flames are your ultimate love and no one else” people.
All I know is the more I grow and learn, the less I understand.
The magnitude of it all is incomprehensible to me.
How will I recognize my Twin Soul and Twin Ray?
With my Twin Flame, I had the eye recognition.
Like we were frozen in time.
And I started believing in God.
I felt all of time and space in that moment.
I felt God.
What about them?
You wrote a Twin Soul is your full Soul.
So, they come once my energies are balanced and I love myself fully?
And what about with my Twin Ray?
Could your Twin Flame and you both have the desire to be in a loving relationship and attract each other?
Before reading your writings, this is what I thought Twin Flames were.
That we wanted real love, Divine Love, so we met to heal and grow into our best selves.
If both you and your Twin have that desire, then are you Twin Rays?
A lot of what you described with Twin Rays, I feel I experienced with my Twin Flame, but I still feel more connected to Anthony rather than Nick, my Twin Flame.
If you can shed any Light you can offer. Please & Thank you.
It will be much appreciated.
Hi Maria. The shortest answer is that your Twin Ray will not be the same person as your Twin Flame. Your Twin Flame is the other half of your soul. Your Twin Ray is a separate soul. Twin Soul could be another aspect of your Twin Flame (meaning another entirely different person; our souls incarnate in multiplicity) who is of higher vibration and consciousness, OR… might be the same person as your Twin Flame ascended into higher vibration and consciousness. It really just depends on your intentions and soul contracts agreed to before incarnation and how each half of your soul is following through on those ascension intentions. Hope this helps. If not, I highly suggest an Akashic Soul Mate reading for clarification. I’d be happy to do that for you any time. Here’s the booking link: https://freerspirit.com/book-an-akashic-reading/
Hi. I met a couple of near twins flames before finally meeting the twin last November. I was questioning my integrity because of my encounters with the near-twins because I am happily married. But very true to what was mentioned, it prepared me as I learned to love them unconditionally no matter who they are, what is their background and ages. and appreciate the connections.
Does near twin goes thru the same stages as true twin flames? How can one tell that he/she is just a near twin or the TF?
Good question! Near twins don’t go through the stages that Twin Flames do. Near twins are soul mates in contract to help you prepare for your twin flame, so there are still ego issues and drama here and there, but not the runner/chaser dynamics.
Enjoyed it greatly
Thank you Jen, for your being and unconditional love.
Everything about this akashic inquiry made perfect sense. Especially the part about “near” twin flames. The near twin is the perfect answer to prepare us for our exact replica because that is essentially what the twin soul is, our mirror. The near twin teaches us how to learn all the things we’d need to be able to handle something that could really be quite a challenge had we not had some practice in the previous relationship with the near twin (hmm, a new term has come about, lol). From what I understand, when we have not been able to grow and learn some level of unconditional love, being in a relationship with a twin soul is quite challenging and basically impossible!
Jen, I believe your last lines pretty much sums up this whole Twin Flame / Twin Soul thingy.
“You already have everything you need inside you, and once you achieve unconditional self love, you complete yourself and the 5D vibration. Who better to love you without conditions than YOU?”
I did inquire of my ‘higher self’ of many of your same issues…but some of my answers were somewhat different.
Basically, us Earthlings have soul mates and lots of them…even into the hundreds…but, not twin souls or twin flames. The twins… are reserved for the more advanced souls, such as…the Masters, the Elohims, the Archangels and such.
But, that is not to say that there are not Masters, the Elohims and Archangels incarnated here now also…and I am not saying that you are not one of them.
Thus, my views are somewhat different than yours…but then again… my views are in constant state of flux. Always changing and modifying. And of course yours will too.
But thanks for your article…it is always great to read how the spirit world is working through others.
If EVERYONE would simply work on THEMSELVES…life would go so much easier.
These are not my personal views; they are answers from the Akashic Records.