It’s the most wonderful time of the year!
Although we’re serenaded this festive message through various types of speaker systems everywhere we go in our holly-jolly matrix (hahaha, hohoho) at the moment, we might not be feeling it.
Holiday anxiety is definitely a thing, and it can sneak up and get the better of us when we least expect it.
Here are a few reasons we may be feeling anxious:
Lack of money
I don’t know about you, but I’m a giver at heart, and there’s nothing I love more than being able to shower the people I love with gifts this time of year. When I’m not in financial position to do this, I tend to turn to crafting handmade gifts, but then I feel like “how many beaded bracelets and necklaces can my loved ones stand?” Of course, they say they love everything I make, but, I create my own anxiety by thinking it’s not enough, or that maybe they secretly don’t like what I’ve made them, and then I start wishing I had money to buy them a gift or gift card so they could get something they actually need/want. This is all consumerism conditioning, of course, and I am fully aware of it, BUT… when my MegaMillions numbers gonna come in, yo???!!!
Trust me, I’ve spent a lot of holidays with many different families because of this very issue with my own family. What I’ve observed is that no family is perfect or immune from holiday drama. There’s always an elephant or two in the living room at every holiday family gathering. Whether we are part of the problem or not – and especially if we’re empaths – it’s always awkward, isn’t it?
Missing loved ones
The holidays are never the same when we lose someone – whether it’s a grandparent, parent, sibling, child, spouse/partner or best friend, this is the time of year that we feel their absence the strongest and the hardest.
Speaking of awkward, divorced parents of young children may feel a great deal of anxiety when it comes to “who gets the kids for the holidays?”
And then there’s always showing up to the holiday parties and gatherings minus your previous “plus 1” and dealing with questions from those who fell out of the who’s-with-who loop.
Whatever the case may be for you, it’s always an uneasy conversation, especially if the wounds are still fresh.
Entertaining or playing host/hostess
Oh, the planning! SO much work goes into hosting a party or family gathering for the holidays, and, even though there are some of us who absolutely LOVE to do this as a gift to our friends and loved ones, there is still a bit of anxiety that comes with fulfilling the host/hostess shoes. At our house, a ton of energy is put into deep cleaning (we have four dogs, a cat and an eight-year-old) then decorating, and then spot cleaning daily until the event; menu planning; shopping for food and gifts; food prep/baking; gift wrapping; and activity planning.
Sprinkle in the concerns regarding food allergies and who’s allergic to what and who might drink too much and, as a result, say too much… you get it, I’m sure.
And, of course, after all that work and energy, after everyone leaves, a ton more energy is spent on cleanup efforts. Sometimes just thinking about all of it is enough to prompt us to treat ourselves to a tropical getaway instead!
Feelings of judgment or inadequacy
Expectations! Everyone has them, but close family and friends always seem to have those “when you gonna” questions that put you on the spot at these holiday festivities and make you feel as if you’re not quite living up to their expectations.
Some of my personal favorites (not!) from my past:
- When are you going to get married?
- When are you going to have children?
- When are you going to publish your book?
- When are you going to get a “real” job?
Who can relate?
And then there are those family members who don’t bother asking questions and just start teasing/poking or criticizing your very existence.
All of this is enough to spike your anxiety through the roof to the point where you just want to pull the covers over your head and stay home and drown in your own “cup of cheer.”
There’s always someone who thinks these holiday gatherings are the prime time to discuss religion or politics, and they are almost ALWAYS contradictory to what you believe, making you want to blast Silent Night at top volume (not for religious purposes, of course, but simply to provide a cinder-block hint to the perpetrator to STFU).
Personally, I have witnessed other awkward and embarrassing inappropriate holiday conversations that have included sexually explicit topics and racial slurs/jokes that have made me cringe and wish I had booked that flight for the Bahamas. So much for “peace and joy,” am I right?
I’m sure there are dozens more reasons your holiday anxiety could be at an all-time-high this year. These are just some of the most common that I have experienced or observed myself.
The question is, with all this holiday anxiety, how CAN we find peace and joy?
Perhaps it begins with understanding the soul contracts and energetic dynamics between you and specific members of your family and learning from your personal Akashic Team what steps you can take to heal the issues that may be keeping you from interacting with or feeling love and compassion.
Or maybe a message from a loved one who has transitioned back to source energy will help you feel more peace this holiday season.
If it’s financial holiday anxiety that’s got you down, you may want to ask how you can attract more abundance and prosperity into your life, OR receive an outlook on your wealth front for 2020. It’s not to early to look ahead at what the New Year has to offer so that you can begin planning and manifesting the life you truly want for yourself.
There are tons of other questions you can also ask your Akashic Team to help yourself achieve the inner peace your deserve this holiday season; these are just examples.
My message to you is that I can totally relate on a personal level, and, on a spiritual and empathic level, I am here for you! Treat yourself or a loved one to an Akashic Reading.
My schedule is wide open this holiday season, so let’s book a reading today and get you back on your spiritual track!